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In our training programs which deal with hijack prevention a great
deal of time is spent on teaching participants on how to become
AWARE.
Crucial to the whole skill acquisition is the ability to read body
language.
The following information, while not intended to be exhaustive
or definitive , will get most persons on the way to improving their
chances of preventing a hijacking.
So as you look to the future it is going to require that you practice,
practice, practice observing people. Remember, reading body language
needs to be done carefully. Unlike verbal communication, body language
can be rather abstract.
You already have the intuitive skills to learn the art of reading
body language. Now you must become more conscious of the subtle
signs people in general ( think in this context hijackers) give
off.
Remember reading body language is a matter of paying attention.
- According to Albert Mehrabian a noted Psychologist
- 7% is conveyed by the words
- 38% by the vocal tones, and
- 55% by facial and body expression
Reading body language is an important skill
Human communication consists of 7% words and 93%
body language, tone of voice and facial expressions. Yet many of
us rely on words alone and that usually gets us in trouble. If words
are only 7% of the communication process and we are not very good
at reading body language, then we are missing a majority of the
message that is being conveyed. In high stress situations such as
aggressive or violent incidents, it is imperative that we read an
aggressors body language so we can talk them out of becoming
violent and in a hijacking identify the intentions prior to them
impacting on us .
Knowledge of body language will help literally
posture ourselves in a more powerful position in order to be more
effective at defusing potentially dangerous situations.
Since a substantial number of hijackings occur
at intersections this is an area which we should be particularly
skilled at reading body language.
The following tips may assist us in discerning
some of the more obvious facets of body language.
There are four major areas of body language you need to observe.
1. Eye Contact and Brow Movement
2. Facial Gestures
3. Torso and Arm Behaviour
4. Leg Activity
Eye Contact and Brow Movement
Now lets take a look at positive and negative indicators:
Positive Behaviours
Direct Eye Contact Interested,
likes you
Smiling Eyes Is comfortable
Relaxed Brow Again comfortable
Negative Behaviours
Limited or No Eye Contact Lying,
uninterested, too confined, uncomfortable, distraction
Tension in Brow Confusion, tension,
fear
There may be several reasons why someone is unable to hold eye contact.
Now, Im not talking about staring at someone either. Notice
when you are interested how much eye contact you give and why you
look away. It can simply be that you are distracted for example
a bird flies by and catches your eye. When people are not able to
tell you their honest feelings they most often cannot hold eye contact.
Another reason for loosing someones eye contact is when you
step into someones personal space (and each of us have a different
size boundary); their natural sign is to look away. Check it out
for yourself. Test some people (make sure you know them fairly well,
you dont want to get hit on the head for invading personal
space): walk toward your friend and see how close you can get before
their eyes dart away. Also note that the same person has different
boundaries for different people, thus the tighter your friendship
usually the closer you are able to get.
You have it in you to recognize these signs easily.
Facial Gestures
Facial Gestures are the second part of body language to read. The
most important part of facial gestures is the mouth. Upward turns
in the corner of the mouth are often positive signs and downward
turns or flat lines demonstrate negative behaviour. Observe the
persons lips to see if they are pressed together or relaxed
and comfortable. Do they show signs of happiness or signs of discontentment?
The most important thing to understand about reading facial behaviour
is that we all have the ability. Most people however never pay close
attention to human tendencies and activities. Success in areas such
as sales requires you to observe human behaviour.
Arm and Torso Movements
The third important factor in reading human body language is monitoring
arm and torso movements. Simple rule to remember is: "Closed-off
posture usually means close-minded attitude and open posture means
exactly what the name eludes, open or willing attitude." I
know you are thinking, "Okay, Mr. Genius now that you have
told me the obvious what does that mean?"
Closed-Off Posture
Shoulders hunched forward lacking
interest or feeling inferior
Rigid Body Posture anxious, uptight
Crossed arms can be just cold
or protecting the body
Tapping Fingers agitated, anxious,
bored
Fidgeting with hands or objects (i.e., pen)
bored or has something to say
Open Posture
Leaning forward interested
Fingers Interlocked placed behind the head
leaving elbows open and armpits exposed very open to
ideas, comfortable
Mirroring you likes you and wants
to be friendly
Still more interested in what
you are saying than anything
Leg Activity
The fourth factor to observe is leg activity. Again this is another
area, which is relatively easy to observe once you know what to
monitor. Usually negative behaviour is observed through fidgety
leg movements. There is no direct correlation between crossed and
uncrossed legs. However, if you notice a person has their legs crossed
and one of them is bouncing on the other, it probably is anxiety.
Leg activity needs to be observed simultaneously with arm position.
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Your success depends upon how well you can modify your personal
behaviour to adapt to situations.
If you notice a person is closed-down you need to focus on one thing.
What do you need to do to increase the persons comfort zone?
( in a hijacking your own)
So as you look to the future it is going to require that you practice,
practice, practice observing people. Remember, reading body language
needs to be done carefully. Unlike verbal communication, body language
can be rather abstract.
You already have the intuitive skills to learn the art of reading
body language. Now you must become more conscious of the subtle
signs people give off
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